!!!أنوثة...عيب

!!!أنوثة...عيب

يعلمونا في بيوتنا معنى أن تكوني فتاة يجب أن تتمع بالجمال، الرقة،الاهتمام بالنفس والمظهر، وأهمها "الأنوثة". فيجب على الفتاة أن تتمع بالأنوثة....ولكن!!!

عندما كبرنا قليلا وأصبحنا نتمسك بكل هذه الصفات والسمات التي حددت ورسمت لنا، وجدنا حقيقة أخرى تمحي كل ما تعملناه في صغرنا. فوجدنا الفتاة التي تتمع بالجمال والرقة "قليلة الأدب" والفتاة التي تهتم بنفسها ومظهرها "أكيد بتعمل كدة علشان الولاد" وأخيرا تلك التي تتمتع بما يسمى الأنوثة "مش متربية ومش محترمة". وجب على الفتاة أن تتمتع بالأنوثة وتحبسها داخل منزلها. وجب على الفتاة أن تعيش "كالرجل" لكي تجد مكان لها ولكي تدافع عن نفسها. فعندما تجد فتاة جريئة تعرف كيف تدافع عن حقها يقولون "بنت بألف راجل" وكأن تعريف الكائن البشري الناجح ملخص في كلمة "رجل".

عندما كبرنا، أقنعونا أن الأنوثة في الملابس الكاشفة، الشفافة التي تظهر أكثر مما تخبئ. وعلمونا أن ملابس الفتاة مهما كان شكلها، حشمتها، طولها أو قصرها ستظل عيبا ومنتقدة.

اعتدنا أن نتعلم الشيئ وضده، لأنهم يستخدمونه فترة، وضده فترة أخرى بما يناسب "موقفهم". اعتدنا أن نتعلم القيم والمبادئ وغيرها الكثير من المسميات التي يحظر استخدامها عندما يكون الموقف ضدهم. اعتدنا أشياء كثيرة لم يجب علينا اعتيادها.

ماذا أقول؟! نعم...أنوثة

عندما أرى بعض الصور مثل "هيفاء وهبي وصور متفجرة الأنوثة" وبجانبها "للكبار فقط" لا أستطيع استيعاب معنى كلمة "أنوثة" في هذا السياق!!

وعندما أسمع الكلام الذي يقال على بعض الفتيات التي تتمتع بما يسمى "أنوثة" من مسميات سيئة و إهانات قبيحة أفكر في معنى هذه المعاني والكلمات. رما نحن تعلمنا المعنى الخطأ للكلمة ولم نفهم المعنى الحقيقي المقصود؟!! ولكن...!!!

عندما ترى إلى الفتيات الاتي تحب لعب كرة القدم، أو لا تبتسم في الشارع خوفا من "التحرش" أو ما يسميه المجتمع "معاكسة بريئة" وتسمع ما يقال عنها ولها من "خليكي بنوتة شوية" أو "مافهاش أنوثة خالص، عاملة زي الرجالة". أرى وأفهم المعنى الحقيقي للمجتمع المنافق صاحب ازدواجية المعايير.

فإنهم يستخدمون الكلمة والمعنى وكل شيء بما يخدم موقفهم وأفكارهم. وبالطبع تختلف تلك الأحكام والتعليقات باختلاف جنس الشخص (ذكر أو أنثى)، باختلاف مصلحة الشخص، وباختلاف موضع النفاق.

عندما قالوا لنا، المرأة نصف المجتمع، نسوا أن يعلمونا أن المرأة ما هي إلا هم وعار بالنسبة لهم. وأنها في تعريفهم "نصف المجتمع" التي تلد وتتكاثر لتجلب النصف الآخر لا غير.

 

فكفى أشعارا، أقوالا وشعارات نهايتها المقابر عندما تفكر أن تثور.

fear of similarities and tragic events!

I have so many thoughts and things i want to talk about, but for some reason the words are too shy to be written.

Washington DC, one of the most amazing places i have been to. it is the city i would really love to live in

back to the point, during my trip i went to the Holocaust Museum. yes, tragic

what made it more tragic and more sad and horrifying for me that somehow in someway i find some similarities to the process that allowed the holocaust to happen in some countries and sadly i will say in Egypt to.
reading all of these information, explanations and justifications for what was happening drove my mind into one direction.......EGYPT....
what can i say, the dictatorship, the civil obedience, the acceptance of the death and torture of "the others" and the inhumane concept people have nowadays about the superiority of some group over the others. the problem is not only political as in governments and so on of what we always cling to in explaining our social failure and degradation. the disastrous problem is our social failure that leads us to the worst by everyday that passes. glorifying a "hero" as the ultimate leader and savior drag us to the bottom of deterioration, immorality and corruption. you ca not offer someone an unlimited power and control with the expectation of respecting some "limits" that does not even exist.
moving from that, i no longer believe in trying i only believe in succeeding! no blame for that, all what we tried turned into a big failure or worst to be steps back.

some might find it EXTREME to think like that, but to be honest with ourselves, nothing is born extreme, it always starts normal and by the "will" of the people it turns into the extreme.

so, how Hitler became from an army guy into that heartless narcissist dictator? He was a normal guy that served in the WW1 and was not recognized as a special person, but he started to grab attention as a charismatic speaker and leader. they he became the leader of the NAZI's party and so on. i do not want to give a history lesson. (for more info. about the rise of Hitler to power click here) but just to start comparing how people rise to power or most importantly how they turn people into believing their ideologies and create what is called of "civil obedience".
what i am talking about is not about a specific party in Egypt but will give to different examples that we can project on.
Muslim Brotherhood or El-Sisi supporters are going through the same process of brain-washing or at least we can call it hypnotizing. first, you HAVE to be in one of the groups, if you hate MB so you are definitely a Sisi supporter or a military supporter in another word. and of course if you are against the military rulling the country so you are definiltly "3ameel w 3iz tkhreb el balad" and one of the MB that wants to destroy the country.
in my humble opinion, i hate both. i do not belong to any of them and will not ever belong to one group. both leaders of the two groups managed successfully in creating a hatred and antagonism between the people and labeling every individual the way they want to. and here we are A TOTAL MESS.
Isn't it weird how people can see the death of other people as "deserved" or "justified" because they are not one of them !
when the death of people does not unite us against who killed them but the opposite (we take the killers side) "khlina nkhls mnhom, ysthlo elly bi7slhom" so we are in a very big serious problem.
 i would love to mention this saying for Niemöller

First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out--
Because I was not a Socialist.

Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out-- 
Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out-- 
Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me--and there was no one left to speak for me.

i do not know why we can not learn from the history and the abuses, holocausts and genocides that happened in the past because of the people themselves not because of the leaders.
we really need to change.
is it possible for such awful thing to happen again?
is it possible to happen in Egypt?

i do not think it is hard to happen as long as people are selfish, racist, sexist and all other kinds of traits that lead to every violation of human rights and social norms.